Leaving flowers is one of the sincerest ways to convey one’s condolence or respects for the deceased loved one. Flowers may come in several various forms. They can come either as wreaths, bouquets or a part of an elaborate floral artwork. Regardless of how they look, they are excellent gifts for those we love now resting in peace. But there are practical reasons as to why offering flowers are so far the best gesture of reverence or admiration for the departed. For one thing, flowers are very symbolic. They are clear reminders of how fragile life can be. Every part of the world can associate the ephemeral existence of human beings through flowers. In Japan, for example, they are likened to the cherry blossoms that bloom in autumn and slowly disintegrate during winter. Flowers that are placed in a water-filled urn will eventually wilt. Such is the message of death through this symbolic gift. Another reason for why flowers are excellent funeral gifts is that they cannot be stolen (within good reason). The Chinese have an ancient tradition of lighting joss sticks and bringing a bowl of fruits on the gravesite. Unlike flowers, a bowl of fruits has an intrinsic value for the living. It can be stolen by both scavenging animals and humans. Flowers are expensive but nobody would ever bother to steal them.

When it comes to leaving flowers on the gravesite, it is important for the cemetery visitors to observe certain courtesies in the surroundings.  So here are a few things to remember when offering flowers on a gravesite or cremation urn niches:

• Remember that some cemeteries have certain rules about leaving flowers at the grave.  Some may only let you place potted plants on the grave site, provided that you will be responsible with its upkeep and disposal.  It is best that you know the regulations of the cemetery before the burial.

• For cremation urn niches in a columbarium, you may provide your own vase for the flowers.  But don’t buy the expensive ones.  The caretakers cannot guarantee to keep an eye on your niche’s vase.

• When placing flowers on a grave site or cremation urn niche, remember to remove all items that could be blown away, such as paper and plastic.  The caretakers have gone through all lengths to keep the place beautiful, so you should do your part in keeping the place clean.